Toning down the hate on the two week wait.
Have you ever heard this quote of Albert Einstein?
“Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it feels like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour and it feels like a minute.”
I wonder how he would’ve felt about a two week wait. Because let’s face it, the two week wait… it can feel like it’s forever, am I right? In this blog post, I want to equip you so that you’re not wishing time away, but that you’re surviving and thriving in your two week wait.
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Relax Into Your Two Week Wait
Chances are that you won’t experience just one two week wait.
Maybe this is your first and only one, but if you look at the statistics, most couples take at least a few months before they conceive.
If you have been trying to conceive for a while already, then you know how awful the two week wait can be if you make it that way!
That’s why I want to give you a couple of tools so that you won’t just survive your two week wait, but thrive in it!
1. Who are you?
First of all, I want you to think about who you are.
What is your identity?
Where does your identity lie in?
Does it lie in being pregnant? In being a mother?
Even if you will be pregnant, you won’t be pregnant forever! Even if you will be a mom, it’s not the only thing you’ll be!
You’ll be a wife. You might be a daughter. You might be a sister. Hopefully, you are a friend. You may have a job and a role that goes with it.
Not to mention.. you are YOU! You are a gem the way you are and there’s nobody like you.
You are precious with all your desires, all your talents, and all your hopes, and dreams, and plans.
They shouldn’t be just focused on pregnancy and motherhood because you have so much more to offer!
So I want you to use this two week wait to really think about who you are and what your hopes and dreams are apart from being a mother. If you need some help getting starting, think or journal about the following questions:
- What do you wish for your relationship?
- What kind of person do you want to be when you’re old?
- Who will I be if I never am a mother? (If you can envision what kind of person you want be if you don’t have kids, that will make you an even better mother because you’ll be grounded knowing who you are)
- Who do I want to be as a mother?
- How do I want to handle my pregnancy?
- How will I take care of my sisters and friends who are battling infertility when I am pregnant?
I guarantee you that these questions will not be an empty distraction during your two week wait!
Another practical way to tackle this identity thing, is to read self-help books that help you grow as a person. You could buy a book or borrow a book and put it in a special two week wait kit for example.
Here are some titles that I can wholeheartedly recommend:
- The Cure for the Perfect Life by Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory
- Sacred Influence by Gary Thomas
- Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
- The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire
- Sorted: Freedom Through Structure by Gillian Perkins
- The More of Less by Joshua Becker
- You’ll Get Through This by Max Lucado
- Your Body Speaks your Mind by Deb Shapiro
- Life Management for Busy Women by Elizabeth George
- Highly Sensitive Person Workbook by Elaine Aaron
2. Don’t drink caffeine
I recently did a video about why I recommend to not take any caffeine when you’re trying to conceive, especially not in your two week wait. It all has to do with your hormone balance.
Caffeine stimulates your adrenal glands to fire off stress hormones in favor of sex hormones. So if you are concerned about low progesterone because you tend to have a short luteal phase, or you tend to have a slow rise after ovulation then definitely leave caffeine to the side.
Because caffeine makes you fire more stress hormones, any kind of nerves or emotions will be magnified in your two week wait. So to keep anxiety lowest and help you have optimal rest, going caffeine free is a clever idea.
That brings me to my next point!
3. Spend a lot of time in the bedroom
I actually mean that in two ways!
First of all, I need you to rest. The more that you rest, the more you’ll be able to give a possible pregnancy a good chance.
Your body actually wants to retreat in the second half of your cycle because of progesterone. This hormone make us more sleepy and makes us want to turn inward, and take care of our home.
It’s designed beautifully this way, because progesterone slows you down to prepare you for possible pregnancy.
That’s in contrast with estrogen, which is dominant in the first half of your cycle. You are then maturing an egg (actually multiple ones!) to be released. This hormone is therefore all about producing and growth so emotionally you will be much more likely to want to take on projects or meet with friends.
So in your two week wait, listen to your body and rest, rest, rest.
The second part of spending time in the bedroom is about spending time with your man! When you’re trying to conceive there is a risk of the lovemaking becoming just baby-making. That may sound really cute and sweet but it shouldn’t just be that.
Even if you do have kids, your kids will at some point (hopefully) leave the home, and it will then just be the two of you. I tell my patients all the time that I hope they are investing in their love life so much now that it’s going to be even better when you’re in your 80s than it is today!
Trust me, it’s possible!
Making love is a way to help you relax and calm your nerves. It’s also a reminder to you that your relationship is the core and that babies will come forth out of that love.
I also guarantee you that your relationship will flourish because your husband will feel so much more loved knowing that you also pursue him outside of your fertile window!
4. Don’t test!
That’s right, don’t take a pregnancy test before 13 days past ovulation! There is no point!
The highest chance of having a positive test if you’re pregnant is on the day that you are due. At 13 days past ovulation, however, the statistics are already pretty good too.
An egg implants between 6-12 days past ovulation. So if you test early, it is possible that the egg would’ve already implanted and that you get a positive test. If you, however, get a negative test you will likely just tell yourself you tested too early.
Best to just wait till 13 days past ovulation and if you’re not pregnant, take care of that disappointment then and there instead of torturing yourself for at least a week. And if you are pregnant? Well, you won’t have the baby any earlier if you test early!
5. Take Calc Fluor
Lastly, take this homeopathic remedy called Cal Fluor in the potency 6x. Take it twice daily in your two week wait to support implantation. Instead you can also start on the pregnancy tissue salt program.
If you are not pregnant, no problem, Calc Fluor combats cavities and is good for you skin and nails too. Win-win!
I really hope you feel encouraged by this blog post to get the most out of your two week wait, rather than wishing it away!